Sunday, September 14, 2008

Gossip....why do we enjoy it so much?

I live in a rather small town. And if you have ever heard anything about a small know that gossip runs amok! I am not sure if it is just me growing up but it is really beginning to bug the heck out of me. And we women are the worst ones at it!

Why do we enjoy hearing ugly things about others? Is it really because it makes us feel better? I was getting my nails done last week and heard two women talking about a local woman here in town. She is a teacher with two small children. The rumor mill has it that her hubby has been cheating on her with a married woman in his office. The affair is now out in the open and I guess there have been some vandalism on someones part. The "other woman" has been granted a restraining order. What a mess right?

All I could think about was that woman's kids. And why are we talking about it? The conversation I overheard was not about building up this woman? Or helping their kids...or helping their marriage! It is really none of our business. I literally stopped right there and said a prayer for this woman.

I went to high school with this lady...and I really don't like her. She isn't the nicest woman...and I think my opinion is shared by others as well. But that didn't make me feel any less sorry for her. Or for her children. And to be honest...for her husband too. For all we know..he could be truly remorseful. And if he is doing his best to fix his family.....why would I want to do ANYTHING to hinder that process.

I am trying VERY hard to make sure the words that come from my mouth are for building others up....and not for tearing them down. Believe me...I have been a gossip...a good one! (Hey...when I do something I do it well! :-) But God has really laid it on my heart...this is not what He is hurtful! It is not Christ like!

I have worked hard these past few months to watch my mouth and hold myself accountable. Gossip is hurtful...why is that such a hard characteristic for us to loose???


Amazing_Grace said...

I know how you feel. When I hear gossip I try to ignore it and say a little prayer.

My mom is the worse gossip in town. I think it stems from waiting attention all the time so maybe this is why others gossip.

Rebecca said...

I think this is a good reminder for everyone.. Gossip is damaging.

That poor woman....

Fratzels said...

Whatever will be talk about the next time I call? I'm kidding, of course, I don't know anyone there anyway.